I remember as a first time mom with a baby a few months old sitting in a circle with a group of mothers when one confessed that she sometimes feels sexual Sexual breastfeed from breastfeeding. And I remember thinking there was something a little weird about that. In Sexual breastfeed three years of breastfeeding, working with breastfeeding women, and becoming something of a I never heard of this phenomenon again. Then my second child was born and with her came toe-curling, breath-catching, painful thrush — and a sickeningly sexually stimulating feeling when my toddler breastfed.
However, if you consider how breastmilk is madeand you realise that Sexual breastfeed is a hormone that stimulates ejection of milk, that release is triggered by breast stimulation, and that oxytocin does other things in the body too — like contractions of the uterus during childbirth and during orgasm — it actually makes a lot of sense.
Now, you might think this plays into Sexual breastfeed argument of people who say that mothers breastfeed toddlers for their own gratification, but the problem is that while it may be a sexual feeling, it is not a pleasant one. Not by a long shot. It may be for some, but for many it is extremely uncomfortable! I hated nursing her and hated that the change happened overnight.
I was so incredibly relieved! Have you experienced feelings of arousal or distress during breastfeeding? How have you coped? Luschka is a mother to two little girls. She is passionate about the principles of Attachment Parenting, and although she admits to learning as she goes, she likes to share what she's learnt with others - possibly because of her experiences in adult education.
AP challenges a lot of Luschka's own background, which she loves as it makes her research and study everything. She writes at Diary of a First Childdocumenting the journey for those parents "Sexual breastfeed" don't live in idyllic isolation, but still want to follow this path with their families.
I absolutely battled the sexual arousal feelings when I nursed my toddler through pregnancy and after my son was Sexual breastfeed. When it first started it as so incredibly creepy! Then I tried to focus on what I might do with that energy once she was nursed to sleep. But literally once Sexual breastfeed stopped Sexual breastfeed, the arousal stopped. It is definitely a physical stimulation thing. And it is so important to know Sexual breastfeed very normal it is!
Thank you Momma Jorje for your comment. Honestly, I wish people could just get over Sexual breastfeed whole breastfeeding vs sexuality thing. We have bodies and they respond to stimulus. It is such a horrible feeling. I was barely able to nurse during pregnancy cuz it hurt so bad; so when I started tandem nursing I was shocked. I thought maybe it all the new teeth and that her suckle was more like an adults now and my body was just trained to react that way, after all my husband was a boob guy.
Many days I find myself wishing my breasts had never and will never again be sexual objects. It has even effected my relationship with my husband because I dont want him to touch them, let alone licking or sucking them and like I said he is a boob man. I tried to explain to him what was going on and he thought it was really weird but is trying to be supportive. Just so you know, and to reiterate what I said, it does go away… when probably differs "Sexual breastfeed" person to person, but it does go away.
Ohhhh this is actually very Sexual breastfeed. I then experienced this myself and hated nursing my toddler so much after the birth of her brother that I had to stop because it was straining my relationship with her terribly.
It has never happened with her brother but, of course, I have never tandem nursed with him as a toddler. He actually self-weaned at 14 months to my dismay — so young! I am not a mother yet, but this is something that I have heard of in the past briefly. I appreciate that you have tackled this subject.
Thanks for the article.
I had a feeling that this may be an issue when I first started Sexual breastfeed feeding. The breasts are purposely stimulated during sex because it feels good for most so I was a little nervous about whether this would happen while breastfeeding. I found it best to meditate whenever this happened.
This would calm down the stimulations as well as any tensions that were building up from being uncomfortable. All the good and bad hormones that are released in your Sexual breastfeed get passed to the baby so I think its best to think happy comfortable thoughts while nursing.
Tell me about it! Congratulations on your soon to be baby. I hope it all goes well for you. think the first thing to remember is that knowledge is power. If I knew I was likely to have post natal depression — which I was worried about for a variety of reasons, after my second was born — I would definitely keep the placenta for encapsulation.
Best of luck to you, and if you have any questions, do join us on the facebook page for help and advice! Throughout nursing my daughter for 2. I always got and overall body buzz of good feeling and, yes, sometimes some sexual arousal.
I never let myself be shamed by it.
Of course nursing should be pleasant, nature needs us to want to do it. I never thought of my child in a sexual way, it was just a physical sensation. I, too, have had these issues with my toddler after her sister was born. I wonder, for me, if I have extra oxytocin given that I am tandem nursing? I try limiting her handling of my other breast and that seems to help. Thanks for writing about this. I cannot Sexual breastfeed what I am reading and how utterly thankful I am to be reading it!!
I literally just made a youtube video about my 10 month breast feeding aversion Sexual breastfeed have had with my toddler and have been in tears it nightly.
Feelings of rage and disappointment and regret and just so much tension surrounding my breast feeding relationship with my daughter. I now tandem breast feed and just like others have mentioned it is problematic primarily with my older one. For a few weeks I have been tuning into my body and trying to figure out why bd where the tension is residing. I notice it makes my uterus tight and strong tension in my vagina. Not pleasurable at Sexual breastfeed more stressful. As this tightening happens so does my aversion increase!
I started to wonder if orgasm would help lessen my aversion. After I got pregnant with my second my sexual activity slowed to almost nothing. Hense Sexual breastfeed had no orgasm and can honestly say I havent had one for 10 months. When I was still very sexually active and releasing sexual tension through orgasm with my partner my breast feeding experience felt very natural and comforting, peaceful and loving.
Not sexual at att. Just how it should feel Sexual breastfeed mother and child.