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Or do you leave it to be revealed on the night? And how do you handle those nerves? Dating and sex are a huge part of life.

And they can be really vulnerable places! But we want to show that you can go out there sober er with confidence.

The idea of going out on a date without the comforting blanket of alcohol to boost your confidence can seem intimidating. In fact, in a survey by Match. Sure, you want to make the best possible impression, but you also want to make accurate judgements about your date as well. Drinking too much alcohol does affect that.

Likewise, you may think that the drunk you is confident and charming but really, the drunk you is just… drunk. It is ok to be a little nervous on a first date. In any scenario, having sex with someone new can be scary — sober or not.

On a purely physical level, alcohol screws with your sexual function. Or ending up with Dating websites for non drinkers STD. On the whole it might be worth dealing with a little awkwardness. And, believe me, no one is going to scream at the sight of your naked body.

If they are getting into bed with you they are already attracted to you. Part of being sober is learning to deal with a little discomfort — and what better practice than sober dating? If you really do just want to sit and chat for a couple of hours, meet for coffee, tea or hot chocolate. Club Soda expert Harriet recently went on a coffee date on a Thursday "Dating websites for non drinkers" So you see, nothing says that you have to stick to the post-work scenario.

Go to a museum or an art gallery, watch a movie. Something to get the conversation rolling. It also means that if you already know that your date is going nowhere, you can bail out after the interesting activity. If Dating websites for non drinkers do need an evening date, explore bars that have a great range of mocktails.

This article from the Independent lists bars in London that have some mouthwatering looking mocktails that would turn a drinker green with envy. Harry Potter tour — or any other weird walking tour you can find.

Ghost tour — this will get your heart racing one way or Dating websites for non drinkers. Pick a class you are interested in — cooking, pottery, that weird chess boxing thing I keep hearing about. Kew gardens or any pretty garden or country house near you. If it goes badly at least you get jam out of it. Stargazing observatory — pick the night of a meteor shower or book a trip to the Royal Observatory. Salsa — or line dancing or celidh, or your choice of dance venue.

Boats — hire a rowing boat and set to the water. This might be a second or third date thing, just in case you really have nothing to say to each other…. A thing that often comes up in the Club Soda community is how forthcoming you have to be about your choice not to drink alcohol or to drink less than most? On the one hand, do you announce it as part of your online dating profile in order to weed out those who would just not be accepting of that?

Or do you want until you meet on your first date? All of these activities should get you in a positive frame of mind for the date ahead. When you get home at the end of the night, try and think of three positive things you learnt from the date.

Even if it was terrible, you might have learnt to never got to that restaurant again, that you can get through 4 hours sober, or that you have a fantastic funny sober dating story to share with your friends. Dating websites for non drinkers bad date is not the end of the world, but a learning experience to help you for the next better date.

All the funds from these sales go straight back into making Club Soda better for its growing community. I gave up drinking in and hope that I can support you to take a self-guided journey to change your drinking whatever your goal. Cut downQuitStickStop for a bit. You must be logged in to post a comment. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. Tanya, founder of the LoveRecovery Dating App shares her experiences of dating sober on this guest webinar for Club Soda.

After very many years of happy sobriety, I found myself suddenly single again two and a half years ago, oh boy, sober dating, sober sex, finding a sober relationship How to handle Valentine's night without alcohol Valentine's Day If you still drink alcohol, you may not have thought much about going out and not drinking. But you are more than likely to come across people who, for many reasons, have decided to go sober. And there is one situation where this may become a particularly awkward discussion: Harriet has managed 15 years alcohol-free.

What is her story? How did she get there? What has she learnt? Dating websites for non drinkers you do it too? On this guest webinar for Club Soda members, she shares how having a community of people supporting her made a big difference.

Here is Laurie McAllister's advice from her first sober date.